How to get your groom excited for the big day
I don’t know about you, but when I was planning my big day, my groom wasn’t overly involved. I think I can count on one hand the number of things he organised himself or was actively involved in (music, guest list, cake … yep that’s it). His excuse was that he didn’t care how we did it, just as long as we got married. Or he occasionally said the ‘right’ thing: “I just want you to have the wedding of your dreams.” While, in theory, this was sweet it was a cop out and made me a little frazzled as the day drew closer. In hindsight, there are many things that he could, and should, have contributed to. So, to help our beautiful brides get hitched without a hitch, here are our top five ways to get your groom involved in your wedding planning:
Planning the honeymoon
Back in the day, it was the groom’s responsibility to plan a surprise honeymoon. That is, the bride knew they were going on a honeymoon, but didn’t know where. Nowadays, planning the honeymoon is falling more in the camp of the bride. So why not bring the tradition back? This may seem scary, because you may end up on a holiday which you would never have picked, however, he doesn’t have to do this solely by himself. Why not let him compile options and, together, you can pick one which you are both happy with?
My groom did a FANTASTIC job on the cake. He worked in with our colour scheme but then incorporated his quirky touch by adding figurines from one of our favourite movies. As for the flavour, he surprised me with two of my favourites and then convinced the cakemaker to experiment by making a marble top tier. Vogue Australia says this is becoming more common as couples are now regularly opting for “quirky cake toppers or anything else that represents [them] as a couple.”
Food for the Reception
I find it surprising that grooms don’t jump at the chance to put a hearty steak on the reception menu. All too often it falls to the bride to predict what the guests would like, so why not have your groom take care of this? At the very least, he can find out what his family and friends would prefer.
Arrange the cars
My groom and I know nothing about cars, so he had no care or input about what cars we had at our wedding. Fortunately, his friends knew quite a bit and were willing to organise it for me. This is another area which could be delegated to your groom (or groomsmen).
Accommodation for Guests
Your out-of-town guests need somewhere to stay. Once your RSVP’s have returned, we suggest you ask your groom seek out the accommodation and book all the guests to stay in the same location. Motels love bulk bookings, and your guests will appreciate being in close quarters with the rests of the family and friends.
Admittedly some of these tasks are not very exciting, but having the groom take care of them will ease the pressure on the bride-to-be. But don’t forget that the groom will also be responsible for the groom-specific tasks of the wedding:
- picking his groomsmen;
- choosing suits and arranging fittings for him and the groomsmen;
- writing (or Googling) his vows;
- groomsmen gifts
Obviously, this list is flexible. And, what we are really trying to do is show you that women don’t have to take ownership of the wedding; grooms can pick flowers, design the wedding cake and do table arrangements too. He can create a Pinterest board if he wants (and if he does, we want to see it!). And don’t forget, we at The Sundae Creative love having the groom’s input on wedding invites, seatings plans and welcome signs.
For more information on ways we can help get your groom excited about the planning your wedding, please do not hesitate to contact us at The Sundae Creative.