As the taxi pulls away from the airport curb, you sigh, wishing you had another few weeks of this glorious honeymoon. Your significant other gives your hand a squeeze signaling that they feel the same way. How great is it that you are in sync already and have only been married for two weeks? As you pull into your driveway you feel a lump in the pit of your stomach: the honeymoon is really over. Back to reality tomorrow. You are fully of questions and, possibly, doubts. Will your relationship be changed now? How are you going to fill your time now that you aren’t planning a wedding?
As your sun-kissed honeymoon skin fades back to that pasty office-white, it can be easy to let these questions and doubts plague you. But remember, you survived a holiday together, and if you were already ‘living in sin’ before the wedding, the transition into married life will be a synch. So, that adage of the first year of marriage is the hardest shouldn’t apply.
Dealing with your lack of projects, or that gnawing sense anticlimactic satisfaction now that the wedding is over, can be a little trickier to overcome. This is the area where some couples fall flat. Their sparkle and sense of excitement is gone, leaving a void in their lives. If you fall into this category, you may think it would be easy to fill your calendar with social events. But this is merely like laying a tarp over the gaping hole and hoping you don’t fall through. What you need are moments of quiet calm to connect and establish your bond.
Taking the time early in your married life to create connections and reignite the honeymoon phase of your commitment, will forge the solid base of your life-long marriage. This base is something on which you can grow your bond, and it will see you through the tough times of couple-life. I’m talking the times when you will contemplate chucking in the towel, i.e. like those early years as parents or when renovating a house (*shudder).
We aren’t saying that you need to sit naked and gaze into each other’s eyes for a month after returning from your honeymoon. We’re saying do the nausea-inducing couplie things like going to brunch or snuggle up on the couch and read a book or watch a movie together. Just ‘be’ with each other before inviting the chaos of family BBQs and dinner with many friends.
And if you simply must keep busy, here a few of things you can do as a couple after returning from your honeymoon:
- Enjoy a bottle of red while unwrapping wedding gifts;
- Write out the thank you notes – don’t forget these otherwise you risk having Grandma, at your next family gathering, drone on about the youth of today having no manners;
- Write reviews of all your wedding and honeymoon vendors.
Lastly, why not plan something new for the next phase of your life. Couples who have shared goals, and who work toward those goals together, have a much stronger bond than those who live fully independent lives together.
For more wedding planning or post-honeymoon tips, contact The Sundae Creative. We can even help you with those pesky thank you notes!